What growing up around gun violence teaches the mind, and how to unlearn it
Interviews with 99 Chicago men show how violence shapes the mental shortcuts people use, and how a paid CBT programme helped them reshape those shortcuts.
Why it matters · The essay treats violence as partly a problem of how people learn to read situations. It ties Stoic philosophy, frame theory and a randomised trial into one argument: the habits can be changed, but only when certain conditions are in place.
King, 26, had just loaded his Glock to avenge his murdered friend Lamont. To him, revenge felt inevitable. In this Aeon essay, sociologist Megan Kang asks what made him put the gun down.
Kang was on a team that interviewed 99 men from Chicago's most violent neighbourhoods. All had taken part in READI Chicago, a programme for the men most likely to shoot someone or be shot. Before they joined, 98% had been arrested, on average more than 17 times each, and 35% had been shot. In Garfield Park in 2020–21, a young man was more likely to be killed than a US soldier deployed to Iraq or Afghanistan.
Three learned habits
The researchers kept asking one question: "What was going through your mind when that happened?" Three patterns came up again and again:
- Misreading situations. After years of real danger, the men read neutral signals as threats. A stranger's long look or a casual remark became a challenge.
- Seeing only one option. Under threat, they could see just one response: hit back. That reflex can save your life in real danger, but it causes disaster when applied everywhere.
- Turning acts into identity. The men applied the fundamental attribution error to themselves. They concluded they were bad people, not people who had done bad things. "I ain't been a civilian since I was like eight," said William, who had lost 11 friends.







